The real meaning behind Valentine’s Day has been lost in its’ translation. The day is named after two Catholic martyrs executed by Emperor Claudius II on 14 February around 300AD It also marks a rather brutal Roman festival involving alcohol and sadomasochistic sexual displays. You might think this makes it a strange day for a modern-day love ritual.
So, this is my take on the 20th century Valentine’s Day. I’m almost certain in this day and age, that most men continue to have no idea when this event is, let alone care about it. It seems like the women are more invested in this tradition. Maybe that has something to do with the fact that women are true romantics at heart. Women also place greater emphasis on receiving gifts from their male counterparts. Because this somehow signifies their partner’s love and appreciation for them. But it seems to me that all this day does, is place pressure on couples and takes the fun out of the celebrations.
If you asked men how they felt about Valentine’s Day, I’m pretty sure most would refer to the words, fear and retribution. Although there are some that would say they get involved to show their love and appreciation for their better half. But let’s face it, most men don’t have a burning desire to buy gifts on this day in an attempt to show their undying love for their partner. This doesn’t mean men don’t love their women. It’s more about men thinking that they can do this anytime, without having an excuse right? I mean who relishes being coerced into giving because it’s expected or tradition?
While I am writing this post about Valentine’s Day, I must profess that it doesn’t hold any great personal meaning for me. Yet, there are lots of women who do value it and some that have quite high expectations associated with this yearly event. So much so, that the focus seems to have shifted from couples declaring their love to each other, to partners having to prove their love for each other. But, for as long as men and women continue to invest their time, energy and money into this day, this pseudo tradition will continue.
I really do think its time that we reconsidered what Valentine’s Day is all about and what if anything that it means to each of us. I mean, whatever happened to unconditional love or giving for the sake of giving?
So, this year, like most other years on Valentine’s Day, I’m investing in being my own valentine. I’ve decided to use this as an opportunity to celebrate my undying love for me. So I’m going to do something that makes me feel good and nurtures my soul. And, there’s no chance of feeling disappointed, because I know exactly what I want and how to make it happen. So they’ll be no angst from me, just love, peace and joy.
Now that’s got to be the best gift any girl can get on Valentine’s Day. So tell me, what are you doing for yourself this Valentine’s Day? Why don’t you drop me a line and tell me all about it? I’d love to hear what you have to say.